How to Mend a Relationship
Saving a relationship when something awful has been done by either partner is not easy. It is heart-breaking, and in most cases, has damaged the relationship in a negative and hurtful way. However, there are things you can do to mend the relationship.
First, you must want to save the relationship and be willing to go out of your way to make it better. A very important first step is to sit down and look at what or who has caused the problem. Talk with each other in depth on how both of you are feeling and then listen to what each partner has to say about the situation.
Communication is the key that will either bring the two of you back together or end the relationship. Also, keep in mind that in most cases each of you will have to compromise so that a solution can be made.
You will need to come to an agreement on how to resolve and overcome the issue at hand. It is important to not allow pride to get in the way of overcoming this serious problem. Each should own up to his or her involvement in the problem so that the entire problem can be examined and then eventually solved.
Listening is vital when a relationship is in peril. Real listening and not interrupting will help bring the relationship back to a normal state. Again, keep in mind that compromising will be needed by each partner. In other words, there will need to be a “give and take” attitude from both. If this “give and take” attitude is not there, then the relationship is in serious trouble.
To hold on to a relationship once something terrible has happened, both partners, especially the one who brought on the problem, should keep the other partner in high priority. If this means changing one’s schedule or saying no to others, then this must be done. The one who has been hurt must feel that he or she is loved and is now held in high esteem. Then, get rid of any and all distractions to the relationship.
In addition, to help mend a relationship keep in mind that to get through the problem will take time, effort, patience and a great deal of understanding and compromise. Solving the problem at hand won’t be accomplished within a day.
However, coming up with a solution should be done quickly so that you both can move forward with a positive attitude and confidence for a better future. If, however, you find that your relationship is not mending, that may be the time to seek help from a guidance counselor, minister or another person you can trust.
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